"When the Boogeyman Comes Calling" is designed to help you navigate the darker parts of your psyche that inevitably haunt you after you have been wounded by someone you loved. The message is clear; face the beast, transform it into a partner, find ways to minimize the damage, learn from it all, and move on. 

Our biggest fears come calling in the otherwise quiet night. They come into our awareness unexpectedly and unwantedly, much like the mythical Boogeyman from kids' tales. However, the adult Boogeyman is far more accurate and much scarier than the fairy stories that parents tell kids to get them to “act right”. The Boogeyman we see is the personification of our fears, insecurities, anger, remorse – the bitterness and negativity that tends to follow a “failed” relationship.

Finding yourself suddenly alone is a brutal shock, but it’s also an opportunity to learn and grow. We examine the tumultuous, often ridiculous emotions that arise when a significant relationship ends. We explore how to be alone, how to manage our feelings, find solace in isolation, remain calm in the face of difficulty, and, in the end, proceed with bravery and elegance. 

It doesn’t matter what happened, or how, or why. That’s a story to share with your friends, or a stranger on a plane. Assigning blame is a huge barrier to recovery. This guide is about you, not the other. They are gone. In general, it’s best to simply let them go and not look back. If children are involved, or a business, or mingled assets, it may be impractical to simply walk away. But, when someone disrespects you, or becomes indifferent to you, move on. Run, don’t walk.

So, this guide is not about finding reasons to blame the other. It’s about staring down your negative emotions and converting them into an ally. The beast is certain to pay you a visit. This book is about how to handle that moment and move on.